Dear Grateful: Every time I write about thank-you notes in this column, I open up a tempest in a tea kettle in the responses. Well, call me a sachet of Earl Grey because I’m jumping in again.

That said, as is ideally the case with any candidate running for office, you can hold your friend accountable. If you don’t like the comments he makes, you can call it out. Hopefully he’ll understand and change. It’s healthy for your friendship and good for the group. Plus, his response will reflect his true character.

Dear Eric: I frequently have gatherings at my house, most recently debate-watch parties. Close friends gather, have cocktails and eat snacks. This time, I decided to go for the cozy vibe and have a debate-watch pajama party. I just invited ladies.