Dear Haunted: Unless your friend asks you outright for your thoughts, keep your family’s history with this name to yourself. For your friend and her husband, it brings joy and excitement, and learning of your experience with it can only make them anxious and stressed, which isn’t good for any parent-to-be.

DEAR HAUNTED: Unless your friend asks you outright for your thoughts, keep your family’s history with this name to yourself. For your friend and her husband, it brings joy and excitement, and learning of your experience with it can only make them anxious and stressed, which isn’t good for any parent-to-be.

She recently shared the baby name she and her husband like the most so far. Unfortunately, in my family, there have been two babies who were given this specific name, and both were stillborn. You can imagine how unsettled I was when I learned she was considering it.