What Is the Narcissist's Hoover? The term "hoovering" refers to a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to "suck" a former partner or victim back into their orbit. Named after the vacuum cleaner brand, this behaviour occurs after a period of separation, where the narcissist attempts to re-establish contact and control. Hoovering can take many forms, ranging from subtle gestures to overt declarations, all designed to reignite the relationship or maintain a hold over the victim. Why They Hoover